Theological Purity vs. Sociological Inclusivity

I often get asked tough questions about Muslims, or LGBT friends.  Or, I encounter a person from one political perspective asking a complex question about someone with an “other” perspective.

Basically, the questions are usually along the line of, “how can we love the sinner and still hate the sin?”

Of course there’s so much in that statement itself. Deciding what is “sin” is probably the biggest challenge of that statement. And then deciding what they mean when they say they still want to “love” that person who is doing that “sin.” It all gets quite complex quickly.

If I tend to hold a hard line and say things like, “Muslims who don’t personally know, believe in, and follow (trust in), Jesus, do not have life,” then I quickly get thrown into a “conservative” or even “fundamentalist” camp.

If I say something like, “Who knows. Only God is the judge,” or even, “I think all will be saved so don’t worry about it,” I’m obviously placing myself in a liberal theological camp.

It’s, of course, tempting to answer these questions or the question of gay marriage or any other tricky issue with a slightly wimpy and dismissive, “Let God sort it out” type of answer. But that’s just not my style (and I don’t think it was the style of Jesus either).

Here are some principles I use to think about and respond to difficult theological issues like this (which tend to force you either into a fuzzy liberal camp or a hard-line conservative camp):

  1. Be slow to answer. Admit that you actually wrestle with this issue. And remind yourself that you’re not God.
  2. Consider just not answering. At least not at first. Even Jesus typically deflected tricky questions with either another question or by just not answering. Or by telling a random story that usually didn’t make sense (we call them parables).
  3. Guard against using one or two verses to “prove” a whole complicated position that you hold. That’s not likely going to convince anyone and often misses the mark. (Both sides of almost any argument do this equally, in my opinion.)
  4. Feel free to pray. Even a short “God help” prayer gives wisdom.
  5. Start with the main and plain teachings of scripture rather than from the obscure verse from Numbers. For instance, the most clear teaching of all of scripture is to love God and love people. So start by running everything through that. And then work down from there to more “unclear” teachings.

Feel free to mix both grace and truth – Jesus did. He does give answers. He’s NOT unclear on these types of things. Don’t be afraid to offend at times when necessary and hold a firm line (like the scriptures do). And yet, make sure you’ve followed the above five steps first.

Grace. Truth. Then grace. Then prayer. Then waiting. Friendship. Sacrifice. Relationship. Truth. More grace. Weep and mourn. Grace….

And in time – what’s right and wrong – sin or not, will be revealed. And you’ll be able to help a friend.